- Doulas and Partners -
Kirstan's assistance with preparing and helping me understand what my role was to help my wife paid dividends. I would not have been able to assist Ange through her amazing labour as well as I did without your support and guidance.
I believe without this preparation the birth of our first child may have been completely different. It was also great to have someone contactable and there with you every step of the way that you are comfortable with and knows what you are all about.
~ First time dad
I am also here for partners, supporting them too.
I assist partners to feel at ease with their role in the birth journey and support them in the way they wish to contribute during pregnancy, birth and into parenting.
How doulas help dads:
Guilt free breaks. Stepping in to help when the partner needs a short break. Labour is hard work, not just for the woman, but for those supporting her!
Freeing up distractions. A doulas continuous support at labour frees dads to be there for the important stuff. From taking pictures to filling up a water bottle or grabbing a towel having someone there continuously means you can be where you need to be, next to mum.
Helping dads be helpful. Sometimes dad wants to help but are not always exactly sure how, can't recall everything learnt in birth preparation or when is best to use different tools. Being a continuous labour presence, doulas are there offer helpful suggestions, guidance and options, empowering dads to support with increased confidence.
Emotional support. Providing reassurance to the partner as well as the woman giving birth. If a partner has never seen a woman in labour before, it can be very reassuring to have someone focused on his needs to answer questions, give an encouraging smile, and put everything in context! This is an amazing journey for partners too!
Less pressure. With a doula present the couple will not need to worry about forgetting their birth plans or trying to remember the pros and cons of interventions. Also for the father who wishes to take a back seat, a doula allows him to relax and experience the birth without being actively involved.
Partners and Birth
Traditionally, partners have been on the periphery to women giving birth and it is still a relatively new phenomena, having partners in the birth room.
Witnessing a woman give birth is a profoundly moving experience. Men often comment about how there are few role models or guidance out there for them to know how best to meet this experience and provide support for their partner. Many men feel uncertain as to how they will respond seeing their partner in pain or they feel pressure believing their support is central to labour's success.
What men bring to the birth space is special. They bring reassurance, protection and love to the mother and their child alongside other valuable contributions. Yet, partners are often going through their own experiences in relation to the birth as this is a transition time for them as well.
My doula support also includes exploring these concerns and understandings with partners to feel confident in their contributions and to also free them up from the pressures of having to be the only support role for their partner, leaving more room for them to be in the experience of it all.